If you are faced with the unfortunate circumstance of having to divorce, the smartest way to achieve your divorce, reach an amicable resolution, subject yourself to less stress, and save money, is for the two of you to retain one experienced family law attorney to act as a neutral (to help you resolve all of your issues). The neutral attorney can advise both of you about the divorce process, the custody process, inform you of the manner in which the law requires you to divide your assets, and work out your other disputes. Finally, the neutral will be able to prepare all of the necessary paperwork to help you achieve the divorce in a timely, cost efficient and amicable manner.
Most people assume a divorce means a long battle. However, it is important to keep in mind that even when becoming engaged in a battle, the most important outcome is for you to get at least what you deserve according to the law. Fortunately, you can get what you deserve by using a neutral attorney. The neutral attorney will explain exactly what you are entitled to receive by law and answer any questions that you and your spouse may have about the law and its requirements. Based on the information provided to you by your neutral, you can decide yourself whether you want to give up more than you are entitled to receive by law or instead accept exactly what you are entitled to receive.
Although you both may initially try to dissolve your marriage with a neutral, once it appears clear that a resolution will not be met, you both will need to retain your own experienced attorney, who will fight for your respective rights aggressively and make certain that you receive everything that you are entitled to. The ironic thing is, if the two of you retain experienced and aggressive attorneys, the two of you will most likely end up where you would have been had you used a neutral (a resolution where each of you has received what the law entitles you to receive). Unfortunately, you both would endured more stress and spent much more time and money to reach that resolution.
Even if you anticipate becoming involved in a long battle (because of your spouse’s temperament, attitude and/or motives), it still may be worth it for you to retain a neutral first. By trying a neutral attorney first, it may end in success, allowing you to reap all the benefits of an early and amicable resolution. On the other hand, if your experience with a neutral doesn’t work, at least you will know that you made a valiant effort to save yourself time, money and stress. You will also have educated yourself on the divorce process and your rights and will be well informed before starting your divorce litigation.